Ruiz acknowledges that it is difficult to leave behind rules, regulations and restrictions throughout his life. But if we break the agreement with the great dream and the multitude of small agreements that have been made a lifetime, and we adapt new agreements in their place – agreements that correspond to the individual – the real person will be born, and that newly liberated person will be able to find truth and happiness. The four chords are: always speak perfectly, take nothing personally, do not make assumptions and always do your best. Everything we accept as « as it is » is an agreement. But too many of these agreements are hurting ourselves and others. Think, for example, of the teenager who is starving to adapt. Think of someone who stays in an unhappy relationship because that`s all they know. This agreement is also a simple concept, but it will allow the other three agreements to become more ingrained and effective. Finally, the first three chords can only really work if you do your best. Today`s world is full of suffering and cruelty.
From birth, we are trained to accept the rules of society as « as they are, » but consent to those rules prevents us from becoming our true self. But there`s another way of life. If we replace the old agreements with four simple new agreements, we can break away from the old rules and find peace and happiness. These chords are: 1) Use your words flawlessly. 2) Don`t take anything in person. 3) Don`t make assumptions. 4) Always do your best. There are three ways to break with our old bad arrangements: Use this exercise to identify some steps you can take to remove some old arrangements that will keep you going.
There are four powerful agreements that bring back our personal power and help us break the perilous circle in which we find ourselves. It will not be easy and we will need a strong will to conclude these new agreements, but if we succeed, we will change our lives. If we want a life of joy, we must break these harmful agreements that promote suffering and failure. But how? We feel powerless because the creation and respect of all these negative agreements have sucked our personal power. These first two agreements free you from many bad arrangements that have disrupted your life. Finally, carefree words, combined with very ardent people, will inevitably bring drama. First, you need to be aware of the agreements you need to make.